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International Women’s Day
Today we aren’t here to hand out platitudes. Today is the one culturally recognised day society ‘allows’ us to really use our voices and not just to speak but to shout. Today is the day we fought for, to raise up the voices of the women of have had them stolen to remind those women…
I don’t want to lose it all.
A couple of years ago, for a short time, God gave me everything I want. Someone I could love and respect and build something incredible with, a respectable job, creative partners, a space where I could use my life experience to positively impact and mentor others and a growing platform. And then one by one…
OCD after Trauma
I have had my basic human rights violated over and over again for years on end I’ve been stripped of the right to make my own decisions or say what happens to my body and you might not ever lay a finger on me but your judgment feels just the same.
I don’t need…
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- International Women’s DayToday we aren’t here to hand out platitudes. Today is the one culturally recognised day society ‘allows’ us to really use our voices and not just to speak but to shout. Today is the day we fought for, to raise up the voices of the women of have had them stolen to remind those women that we see them, that we know their pain and that we will not EVER stop fighting for them especially when they cannot fight for themselves.
- I don’t want to lose it all.A couple of years ago, for a short time, God gave me everything I want. Someone I could love and respect and build something incredible with, a respectable job, creative partners, a space where I could use my life experience to positively impact and mentor others and a growing platform. And then one by one …
- OCD after TraumaI have had my basic human rights violated over and over again for years on end I’ve been stripped of the right to make my own decisions or say what happens to my body and you might not ever lay a finger on me but your judgment feels just the same. I don’t need to be your version of normal I need to be my version of surviving.
- From the Sky downHow did the world get so full of information every minute of every day reality tv and 24 hour news and who thought it would be a good idea to fit it all right here in the back pocket of my jeans all the information and the miss information and all the truth is out …
- When the beginning isn’t at the startMy dad on the other hand had a big kind heart you’d have to be made of stone not to fall for but he too had his demons and tried to escape them in a bottle that ended the day as empty as he felt.
- The Space to ReceiveYung Pueblo once wrote that being able to receive love is as important as being able to give love, the trouble with that is that I’ve never been any good at receiving. I didn’t grow up with the tools to know how and life taught me there was always an ulterior motive and that the sooner I figure it out the better chance I have of surviving it.
- Dating with CPTSDDating with trauma is complicated there’s no one size fits all option for how to deal with life. Sometimes you can meet someone that aligns with you in ways you daren’t have imagined possible that fits you like a glove, and sometimes that still isn’t enough because you aren’t both in the same space when it comes to overcoming triggers or because you are or because you just aren’t brave enough to let each other in far enough to see past it.
- I didn’t leave because he was hurting me…After my second child (my first in my second marriage) my husband began studying for his degree, as well as working full time. This led to a level of stress with which he simply could not cope, no time for his family and a lot of resentment towards me (everything was always my fault), and …
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- My Husband’s a RapistSomebody referred to my (now ex) husband as a rapist recently and it shook me. It might seem crazy more than three years after I left but I had only considered my experience living with an abusive partner, you’d be surprised how big the leap feels between knowing you’ve been raped and considering your husband …
- The Losing GameWow, you’re sexy for an older reader! Catch what I did there? I ran game on you. I made you feel good about yourself by undermining you. Depending what I went on to discuss you may have gone away still thinking – I AM pretty sexy for my age, and where’s the harm in that? …
Beautifully Defected 